This week the iNLP Center will host a deep dive webinar for existing students. The subject will be the Quad Map, as pictured below.
What is the Quad Map?
The Quad Map is a coaching model - a lens though which coaches may locate a client’s attention. Which which perspective is the client speaking? There are four options according to the Quad Map.
1. Associated Past: Speaking from a historical point of view that you are reliving.
2. Dissociated Past: Talking about the past from an observer perspective.
3. Associated Future: Speaking from a future point of view (or anticipatory pov) that causes feelings in the present.
4. Dissociated Future: Talking about the future from a big picture (observer) perspective.
No Right or Wrong Point of View
There is not right or wrong point of view on the Quad Map. The relevant question is, “How useful is. your current point of view, given your desired goal?”
If you’re living in regret (past dissociated) how does that serve you? Would you be better off moving to a dissociated perspective? What would happen if you did?
If you’re out of touch with the joys you’ve experienced in life, would you be better off associating with past joyful experiences?
When the future scares you, would it serve you to step back and look at the big picture?
An uninspiring future, why not associate with what you have planned?
Each quadrant on the map is only right insofar as it’s useful. All the quadrants can serve a purpose under varying circumstances.
Two questions to ask as a coach or client:
1. Where am I on the Quad Map right now?
2. Where should I be, given how I want to feel and act?
The Keys to the Quad
When you're stuck: The key is knowing where you are in the moment. Simply becoming aware of this will cause you to step back mentally and evaluate your present mindset. At this point you will enter a realm of increased choice about your perspective.
The proactive approach: Use the Quad Map to think about how you're going to think about something (thinking outside the box). This might look like:
I'm going to set some goals. First, I'll review my past for goals that might be relevant. Then, I'll look at my future from a big picture perspective and brainstorm. Finally, I'll discover which goals are most exciting.
1. Past Dissociated
2. Future Dissociated
3. Future Associated
I need to solve a problem. First, I'll look at it from a distance to discover what I can learn. Then, I'll imagine applying what I learn in the future, to find out if I've learned the right lesson.
1. Past Dissociated
2. Future Dissociated
Ideas for Life Coaches in Training
• How to recognize where clients are on the map
• How to move clients from one box to another
The Power of Perspective
Check out this breast cancer survivor's story, especially the last line of it. Doesn't this testify to the power of perspective? It's a Quad Map thing:)
iNLP Center students can register here. (Registration closes Thursday, August 9th at 3 PM PST).
The Self always operates with Mindful Consciousness
Parts typically operate in Safety Consciousness, yet would be interested in Mindful Consciousness if they knew it was safe.
What are parts?
• Brief history of parts
• How We Decide
• Parts and NLP
What is the Self?
Exercise: Which part of me is this? I am here. Recognize Mindful Consciousness Report: Complete the survey
Week 2: Establishing the Self I: Associating and Dissociating with Parts
Degrees of separation
Exercise: Recognize hijacks and dissociate.
Week 3: Self as Healer: The Process (Overview)
Overview of the Healing Process
1. Identify and Goal and Obstacle
2. Identify and Dissociate with the Parts in Play
3. Communicate with Protective Parts
4. Identify vulnerable Parts
5. Heal vulnerable Parts
a. Establish Self as Healer
b. Understanding and witnessing
c. Identify positive intention
d. Invite ongoing contact
e. Transform vulnerable into a healthy role
f. Tranform protective parts into health roles
e. Maintain new inner dynamic
To receive the ACC credential from the International Coach Federation (ICF), applicants must complete all application requirements, which includes submitting an audio recording of a real coaching session. This recording consitutes the ICF performance evaluation.
At the ACC credential level, applicants must submit one audio recording of 20-60 minutes for a performance evaluation by an ICF assessor. This post will detail what the ICF ACC assessors are looking for in the performance evaluation.
As an ICF ACC assessor does the performance evaluation, he or she is essentially looking for evidence that the life coach applicant demonstrates with efficacy the ICF core competencies during the coaching session.
The ICF ACC assessor scores the coaching performance based on those core competencies and will offer feedback for each one, pass or fail. ICF does not hesitate to fail life coach applicants who do not meet minimum standards. They do so respectfully, with detailed feedback on what needs to be improved, along with an invitation to resubmit a new coaching recording when ready.
Here is an example of that feedback to a life coach ACC applicant who did not meet performance requirements for the Active Listening core competency:
The coach was hearing what the client said and the summarizing and paraphrasing occasionally picked up subtleties from the client. The coach was too verbose in his clarifying and occasionally interrupted and will be coaching at a higher level when he can spend more time listening than talking. The ratio should be around 80:20 with the coach only speaking around 20% of the time. In this session the coach would have been speaking at least 50% of the time.
The iNLP Center is organizing a new, speciality life coach certification to commence in September of 2018. This program will be called Inner Dynamics Coaching Specialty.
We're unsure as to the prerequisite for the course, but the initial offering will be open to any student currently enrolled at the iNLP Center.
What is Inner Dynamics Coaching?
Inner Dynamics is a life coaching specialty offered exclusively at the iNLP Center. By inner dynamics, we mean: how you relate to the various parts of your personality. We're not referring to any kind of mental illness here, quite the opposite. That we all have different aspects - or parts - of ourselves has been a commonly accepted fact for literally thousands of years.
The book Subpersonalities features a fascinating history of inner dynamics dating back to ancient Rome. Since then, philisophers and psychologists have been handily referring to different parts of our overall identity, most notably Sigmund Freud. His concept of the Id, Ego, and Superego is one among many examples of inner dynamics.
Jung's archetypes and John Bradhsaw's inner child are other well-known examples of parts or inner dynamics models.
How our inner parts relate to each other is a major factor in how we think, feel, and behave. You've been there. One part of you wants one thing and another part of you wants something else, often the opposite.
One the one hand, I need to stick to my diet. One the other hand, I'd love to devour that chocolate cake!
Part of me wants to just cut loose and quit my job, but I guess I have more common sense than that.
I do pretty well on my to-do list in the morning, but in the afternoon it's like some part of me comes up and says, "Screw it!" and then the whole day falls apart.
Parts conficting with other parts, or inner conflict, is one of the most common phenomena in the world. But who knows how to heal the divide relatively quickly and painlessly?
Parts. We've all learned to use this concept to describe our life experience, but what about achieving greater influence over our inner parts? There is shockingly little education available about how to do that.
Even more surprising, once you learn to lead your inner parts instead of being at their mercy, your entire sense of self - and your life - can change for the better.
What are the Benefits of this Kind of Life Coach Training?
There are many! Once you learn to consciously work with your parts, you will be able to:
Find your true self. We can live a lifetime not knowing who we are. It's such a vague, nebulous question: Who are you? The parts model both clarifies and enhances your sense of self.
End self-sabotage. You might think of self-sabotage as one part of you wanting to do something that inhibits you or other parts of you. When a part of you wants something harmful, you may be able to mediate that desire by communicating with the part. It works!
Always know how to grow. The parts model provides and simple and constructive framework for self-improvement. When you are aware of your personality parts and how to work with them, the growth opportunities are limitless.
A Special Offer from the iNLP Center
The iNLP Center is currently preparing its Inner Dynamics Coaching Specialty Certification. We'd like to test drive this program at a fraction of the cost with a few students who are willing to give us detailed feedback before, during, and after the course.
The feedback will come in the form of confidential online surveys taken at strategic times. Students who elect to participate in this "test drive" course will be screened according to willingness to provide such feedback.
The iNLP Center offers a combination group and individual International Coach Federation (ICF) mentoring program. This ACC mentoring program meets ICF guidelines for individual credentialling at the ACC level.
The purpose of this program is to support students currently enrolled in the iNLP center life coach training, located here:
Participants begin by filling out an online questionairre to assess desires, needs, an opportunitie to grow as a life coach.
The ACC mentoring program is facilitated in live, virtual classrooms (using Zoom). There are minimal requirements for students outside of class. However, after each class, the ACC qualified mentor may assign homework assignments for students who want to stretch their capacities.
This ACC mentoring consists of 10 sessions total, per the ICF guidelines. Seven of the 10 sessions are done in a virtual group setting and the remaining three sessions are individual sessions with the iNLP Center ACC qualified mentor. The group sessions are at set times weekly and are ongoing. Students may join at any time and begin the cycle at any point. Individual sessions are scheduled privately with the ACC qualified instructor through a private calendar app.
The curriculum for the seven group sessions is dedicated to the life coaching competencies per ICF. The ACC mentor coach will customize each learning session to the desires, needs, and opportunities of each student, per the initial questionairre as well as what comes up spontaneously during each session.
A secondary but important focus of the ACC mentoring program is to prepare student to take the ICF coach knowledge assessment, which is required for ACC credentialling.
What happens during ACC mentoring group sessions:
The instructor introduces ICF core competency principles and practices (1-2 per class session) followed by life coaching case scenarios for discussion and application. This mirrors the kind of learning that will serve students during the ICF coach knowledge assessment.
The instructor will demonstrate life coaching in the class with students, with commentary and class discussion about the coaching process and outcomes.
Students will bring life coaching examples from their coaching practice or volunteer sessions for similar discussion and learning.
Participants will be asked regularly to self-assess their coaching competency and request feedback from the ACC mentor and other students.
What happens during ACC mentoring individual sessions:
The individual sessions are scheduled with the ACC mentor after a participant has completed all seven group sessions. The individual sessions are used to customize the learning to the individual coach.
This is accomplished as the instructor provides the student feedback on his or her coaching through role-play.
Upon completetion of the entire ACC mentoring group and individual program:
Students who satisfactorily complete the ACC mentoring program will receive verification of completion for use during ICF ACC application process, as well as any further support possible to successfully complete the ICF credentialling process.